It is very hard when our hero and soul mate does not live up to our expectations. I had an experience like that in my marriage when I was experiencing some medical problems that affected our sex life. My husband behaved badly and would not talk to me. At some point we did talk and he admitted that he was not proud of his behavior, but could not help it. Remember, your husband is human and he has a right to his emotions. Give him time to process this news and decide how he feels about it. Meanwhile, pray for him. I will pray for you both.