I am new here and a mom of five, too. I am also over 40 and have had 3 miscarriages. The first was my second pregnancy and I was still young, still hurt non the less. My second was when I was 37, it nearly took my life. I had to have blood transfusions. God gave us another the following year. This pregnancy was hard, I was on bedrest for most of it and almost lost him 3 times. He was born 3 weeks early but in perfect health. He is now 7 years old and a lively young boy. I did get pregnant again and miscarried that one too. Pray and I will pray with you. The best advice I can give you is to talk to your priest. I tried to look it up in the Catechism of the Catholic Church and was unable to locate anything specific. BTW, I have not had any more pregnancies since. Keep me posted!