Hi, I am new to this site. I found it by accident while looking to see if anybody has difficulty or frustrations with NFP. My husband and I started using NFP 7 years ago. We planned 2 pregnancies and had 2 surprise pregnancies with NFP. All of our children are wanted and we realize that we aren’t really in the driver seat because God is. Even though we didn’t want to get pregnant the last 2 times, we can’t imagine life without them. We now have 6 kids ranging from 14 to 10 months. Our last baby has Down’s syndrome. We don’t want to have anymore kids. We are both in our 40’s and we want to move on with the next stage in our lives. Since we are so fertile (all we have to do is think about it) and it seems like I am pregnant! Actually today I bought a pregnancy test because I haven’t started menstrating after our last baby. I stopped nursing the beginning of Feb. I pray that I am not but I need to know so that I can take good care of myself if I am for the babies sake.
Our older kids, 14, 12, 6, and 4-year-old all want us to have more kids. They want a big family. I keep telling them that 6 kids is a big family. If only they knew all the financial stress that goes along with a big family.
My husband did not go to NFP training so it has been hard for us. He doesn’t understand the chart and thinks that I am holding back intimacy. I just don’t want to get pregnant. So If you do the class, both of you go together!
The hardest thing for me is that we are struggling financially, our house needs some major work and we just don’t seem to make ends meet. I have cashed my IRA in last year just to help out. We don’t want to go on gov’t assistance. I don’t want to be labeled because we chose to practice NFP and have a big family. I don’t want society to judge our faith. Our friends and families don’t get why we don’t get sterilized. They just don’t get it. I hope our story helps a bit. I sure does feel good to talk about it.