In my experience

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My first son has always been shy and loves to snuggle with his mommy and hold my hand whenever we go anywhere. Now that he’s 4, as soon as he sees the neighbor boy get home from school he’s like “C-ya mom! ” (Of course, I go outside with him while they ride bikes/play for safety purposes, but he does play with his friends without interference from me) Your kids will develop in their own time. Don’t worry what other people say. We tried preschool when DS was 3 and he never had a problem being away from me, but told me it was boring and he didn’t learn anything, he just spent time watching other kids misbehave. After 6 months, we decided homeschooling was best for our family and we LOVE it. Yes, you will get flack from lots of people but who cares, I know in my heart it is the best for both my boys in the end. My oldest son turned 4 in June and can already read because I spend time with him and he learns so much. And he does go to gymnastics for 2 hours a week, as well as swimming lessons. He also plays with the kids in the neighborhood without me. I know he feels secure enough to leave me for a short time and know I will always be back for him.
BOTTOM line…Do what you know is right for you and your kiddo. You know your child’s personality and what works for them. Don’t look at what everyone else is doing…I’ve found most people are only concerned about how soon they can get rid of their kid so they can have their “me” time. If you love being with your kids, and they love being with you than just enjoy your time together as a family!
Merry Christmas!
Heather
Mommy to 2 boys