I held my son all the time – now he’s 1 1/2 years old and he knows if he’s sad or has hurt himself that I will love him and hold him. He’s not spoiled at all. I’m pregnant with number two and I’m planning on using the baby sling to carry he/she around as much as possible. I think it’s a wonderful bonding relationship and I don’t understand how carrying could ever spoil a child! That’s my experience!