I believe that in these situations we are called to be obedient to our husbands. We are to be obedient in all things except sin. This is really hard for me as I am very strong-willed. In fact my husband probably would be very surprised to hear me say this! But I believe this is what God expects nonetheless. I try to remind myself that God’s ways are not my ways and he might have something in mind that is even better than what I can imagine.
Hope this helps,